The Myth of the “Bulldog”Attorney
When people think about hiring a divorce or custody lawyer, they often imagine they need a so-called “bulldog attorney”—someone who promises to be aggressive, loud, and unrelenting in court. It’s an image reinforced by TV dramas and war-stories from friends or coworkers. But in reality, the “bulldog” approach in family law is often more harmful than helpful.
Why the Bulldog Image Is Misleading
Family law cases are not like corporate litigation or criminal defense. They involve children, co-parenting, and ongoing family relationships. A lawyer who prides themselves on being combative may:
Escalate conflict rather than resolve it.
Increase legal fees for both parties.
Create long-lasting damage to the co-parenting relationship.
Make settlement less likely, which drags cases out unnecessarily.
Courts in Arizona (and across the country) are focused on the best interests of the children, fairness, and compliance with procedural rules. Judges rarely reward attorneys who turn every issue into a fight.
What Actually Works in Family Law
Instead of a bulldog, clients benefit most from a lawyer who is:
Strategic: Knows when to push forward and when to compromise.
Prepared: Understands the facts, the law, and the judge’s expectations.
Focused on Solutions: Works toward outcomes that preserve dignity and stability, especially for children.
Professional: Maintains credibility with the court by staying respectful and reasonable.
Being “aggressive” isn’t the same as being effective. A well-prepared, solution-oriented attorney can achieve better outcomes without unnecessary drama.
The Hidden Cost of the Bulldog
Clients sometimes hire a bulldog attorney because it feels empowering at first—but the long-term cost can be high. Prolonged litigation often means more stress, higher attorney’s fees, and strained relationships that linger long after the case is over. In family law, you’ll likely still have to interact with your ex-spouse or co-parent after the case ends. An attorney who burns bridges can make that future even harder.
Choosing the Right Advocate
If you are facing a divorce, custody case, or other family law matter, consider what you truly want: peace, stability, and a workable path forward. Look for an attorney who balances firmness with professionalism—someone who can protect your rights while also helping you move toward closure.
At The Law Office of Adriana M. Orman, PLLC, we pride ourselves on being diligent, strategic, and compassionate advocates. We know that family law matters are deeply personal, and we approach each case with a focus on long-term solutions, not unnecessary battles.